DAS: Differences Are Strengths

Generally, we make rigorous efforts to make our children and subordinates as our photo copies by constantly saying them things, which are right from our prospective. In this process, we forget and ignore that every person is different and he/she needs to build his/her own strengths. Having different skills, knowledge, attitude, and thinking should not be viewed as weakness rather it should be explored and utilized as strengths. People are not useless; infact they are not utilized to their fullest potential. Trying to fit a round person in a square peg will be stressful and useless.

Good leaders are those who can find different qualities in a person and give him/her role, which suits his/her personality. In a team if every person is doing a role, which he/she is passionate about, then the team will perform at the level, which no one can match. 

5 Tips to appreciate differences. 

1. Encourage opposite views that will help you to understand problem in a holistic way. 

2. Find out strengths and weaknesses of self, including other members of the team.

3.Capitalise on complementary qualities of each team member.

4. Respect different qualities of people.

5. Do not compare or compete self with others.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

अलग अलग गुण धर्म के, होते सब इंसान।

विभिन्नता से ही बने, ये दुनिया बलवान।।

DMM: Determination Moves Mountains.

River water can cut the rocks not only because of its force but because of its perseverance. Extra-ordinary intelligence or charismatic behavior is not at all mandatory for becoming 

successful in life. The only thing which matters here is your determination to overcome difficulties. Once the target is set, continuity of efforts is needed to get the results. Problems would arise, but problems look tiny in front of person whois standing like a rock for his/her mission. Frankly speaking, determined person would always find innovative ways to overcome any difficulty.

Let's take example of fields such as sports, politics, films,industries 

or agriculture, success has been achieved by each and every person 

who was determined for his/her cause. Most gifted tennis player does not become a champion, but most determined and dedicated one does. Most Intelligent person does not become most successful entrepreneur, most determined and dedicated does. Take any field; if you have determination and dedication, it can overcome any weakness. 

5 Tips for determination. 

1.  Do not entertain any excuses.

2.  Follow strict time discipline.

3.  Let failure not deter you.

4.  Keep trust in self and the God.

5.  Keep patience. Rewards take their own time to materialize.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

ठान लिया मन मे अगर, पर्वत शीश झुकाय।

दृढ प्रतिज्ञ के सामने, जग बौना हो जाय।।

DNH: Destroy Negative Habits.

The  Spelling  of  HABIT  is  very  interesting. You  remove H, A  BIT is there. Remove A, BIT is there. Remove B, IT is still there.  Habits can be positive as well as negative. Mostly, when we have lesser control on our senses, we develop negative habits. To develop a positive habit one needs a strong mind. Irony is that, many times we are not even aware of our negative habits, so taking regular feedbacks from our near and dear ones can help in knowing our bad habits.

Having the knowledge of bad habit is the first step towards working in the direction of removing it. Research says that removing an old habit or developing a new habit requires conscious efforts of 21 days. In 21 days, if you miss any day then start counting again from one. One thing for sure, expecting positive results from negative habit is like expecting mangoes from a neem tree. A habit whether good or bad, is like a master which controls you as a slave. 

5 Tips to deal with bad habits. 

1. Make a list of bad habits.

2. Deal with one at a time.

3. Develop strong will power.

4. Ask your near and dear ones to help you in fighting bad habit.

5. Develop a good habit to replace a bad habit.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

अच्छी आदत आपको, देती सदव्यव्हार।

ग़लत आदतों का करे, जड़ समेत संहार।।

CNM: Courage Needs Maturity

An individual can be courageous at different aspects of personality 

such as physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. It is also quite possible in one aspect a person is courageous but in another he is fearful. 

People are courageous, fearless, confident, knowledgeable, powerful, & astoundingly rich but, do they use maturity in showing all these qualities. The word “maturity” over here can be defined as behaving in right way 

at right time, at right place and with right people. A man can be physically very strong but may beat his wife. An extremely knowledgeable person may call his competent a junior fool. A very rich person may not give enough salary to his employees. What is the use of such courage, braveness or affluence? 

Courage without maturity is like a man without brain. Courage is needed to show consideration for the weak. The right combination of courage and consideration reflects maturity. Such people are more calm, kind, humble and down to earth. 

5 Tips to develop and use courage. 

1. Different techniques should be used for developing courage at different level. 

2. To overcome thefear,faceit.

3.  Demonstrate courage with maturity.

4.  Do not misuse your courage to suppress  the weaker.

5. Courage requires mental toughness rather than physical strength.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

मन के जो पक्के रहे ,करते सोच-विचार। 

उनके साहस का रहे, मानवता आधार।।

CYP: Create Your Path.

The best way to have good-luckis to create your own destiny. Most 

of you will question that how one can create his own destiny. You may reject the idea as being rubbish. Destiny is nothing but day-to-day things one does on a daily basis, reaction of those actions emerges as a destiny in future. You plant a mango tree today and 

take care ofit by giving water and fertiliser; in future you are bound 

to get mangoes. 

Our problem is we fail to take decision even for small matters such as what to cook tonight or what to wear in the party. We give command of our life in the hands of others. Allowing some one to rule your life for sake of love is different but receiving commands for important matters, will lead you to become what others want to make you, not what you want to become. If you wish to fulfil your dreams, create your own path. 

5 Tips to create your path. 

1. Be incharge of your actions.

2. Set the vision, decide the strategy and act accordingly.

3. Differentiate between good karma and bad karma. Focus on good karma only.

4. Be clear about your role and do your duty.

5. Only action is in your hand, not the consequences. Keep patience. Result of good karma will certainly be good.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

नज़र निशाने पे रहे, लगे लक्ष्य पे बाण।

अपने सपनों के लिये, करे सुपथ निर्माण।।

CYB: Count Your Blessings

Everything seems valuable, either before getting it or after losing it. 

We do not value the things which we possess and do not care for people who are in our lives. We behave in a childish manner. Most of the time we spend our entire life in getting things, which we desire and dream badly, and in that process we ignore things, which we own. The pleasure, which we can avail now, is traded for future expectations. As soon as, one desire is fulfilled, another crops up. In that process, we spend our entire life in the state of unhappiness. 

Furthermore, we do not care for living ones, who are blessing in our life and we regret when we lose them. The secret of happiness is to count your blessings. There are millions who have dreams to live the kind of life you are blessed with. The biggest blessing is life itself. I feel fortunate that I am born as a human being. The most wonderful machine of universe is in our possession. Do not ignore it. Do not waste this life. Utilize full potential of it. 

5 Tips to count your blessings. 

1 . Make list of all good things in your life.

2.  Appreciate, love and care about what you have.

3. Love people and use things rather than using people and loving things.

4.  Everyday say “Thank You God” for whatever you have.

5.  Do not regret in case you lose something. Probably, the role of that thing or person is over in your life.

ख़ुशियों के देता हमें,

गुलदस्ते भगवान।

गिनती करके देखिये,

कितने है वरदान।।

दोहा अविनाश बागड़े

Conquer Your Mind

CYM: Conquer Your Mind

Conquering mind is easy to say but 

it's the most difficult thing to achieve. People like Buddha and Mahavir could do that. It is not easy to define what is mind but with an analogy it is easy to understand that mind is like bridles of 5 horses in a chariot. 5 senses can be termed as 5 horses. Our intellect is like a driver of  the chariot. 

Our mind gets inputs from all senses and store them for immediate or future use. Our actions are the result of feelings and experiences we have collected in our past. Whether we are doing good or bad or not doing any thing, all is in command of our mind. Our intellect gives decision for doing or not doing things based on the arguments put forth by our mind and our conscious. When the senses are not in control, they will force mind to get permission of intellect and do whatever they want to do. What we are and what we will become is the outcome of our mind's quality. Mind has ability to design our destiny whether good or bad.

5 Tips to conquer mind. 

1. Always be alert about your thoughts.

2. Bury negative thoughts.

3. Nurture positive thoughts.

4. Initiate actions with positive thoughts only. Avoid any action while you are having negative thoughts.

5. Develop strong will power to destroy negativity.

जिसने वश में कर लिया,

अपने मन का मोर। 

उसके हाथो में रहे,

जीवन की ये डोर।।

दोहा अविनाश बागड़े