DYD: Do Your Duty

The most difficult question in my life was and still is, who am I and what is my dharma (duty)? By dharma I do not mean here religion but duty. In life we have many roles and many relationships. So far my conclusion is honestly discharging the duty of each and every role and each and every relationship shall be our duty. 

In life we play many roles; a child, a parent, a sibling, a spouse, a member of a community, society, religious group, a boss, a  colleague, a subordinate, a citizen of nation and a member of the 

planet. Every role demands certain responsibilities and duties. Our 

dharma is to discharge those duties as diligently as possible. Some times it so happens that in a relationship, other person is not fulfilling his/her duty and  due to that we may decide not to fulfil 

our duty as well. This may satisfy our ego for time being but won't enrich our mind.

5 Tips to do your duty. 

1. Make a list of your roles and related duties.

2. Do not worry about reward while doing your duty.

3. Do not expect from other person that he/she will do his/her duty.

4. Wisdom is needed to perform conflicting duties.

5. If it is impossible to fulfill your duty, be transparent with the other person.

DMP: Don't Magnify Problems.

50% people are not interested in your problems and the rest are happy that you have them. Some people  share their problems in great details and style, thereby creating a mountain out of mole.  

It is not that one should keep his problems to himself only. Especially 

men feel inferior in sharing their problems. Most of the time men do not share problems even with their spouse. That attitude is also not advisable. Sharing problems with the right person reduces suffering and enhances chances of getting solutions. What is important is to select the right person to share your problems. 

There are two types of people with whom one can share the problems. One is your close family or an associate who is going to get affected by the problem and another is a competent person who has the ability to solve your problem. While sharing keep in mind that you do not magnify your problems. Neither the problem is going to reduce nor you can get the right solution.

5 Tips to handle problems. 

1. Problems are inevitable, shareit with a right person.

2. Be positive and think about right solution rather than feeling helpless.

3. Do not advertise your problems.

4. Forfew problems, timeis the great healer. Keep patience.

5. Try to be more knowledgeable about problem and its probable solutions.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

अपने दुख तकलीफ़ ना, जग भर करे बखान।

दुख अपना बतलाइये,  लोगों को पहचान।।

DDD: Dreams Drive Destiny

Dreams here mean thoughts which we visualize with open eyes and alert mind. Dreaming with open eyes is more structured process than simply wishing or desiring. In dreaming, lot of thought process is involved. Person visualizes what ultimately he wants to become . Why he wants that ?  What are the options he has ? What would be the path and process to reach there ? 

Once the dream or vision is decided, opportunities start emerging. Of course dreaming alone is not enough. One needs to act. But it is the dream that stimulates action. Dedication and determination is required for implementing your dreams. Quality and vastness of dreams depend upon your ability to think beyond your present 

reality. As a general rule, if your dreams are not achieving 20 times success in 10 years compared to your present situation then your dreams are just average. 

5 Steps for effective dreaming. 

1. Dream for long term, at least 5-10 years ahead.

2. Dream beyond your present capabilities.

3. Do not worry that people will laugh on your dreams.

4. Read biographies of your role models.

5. Dreams followed by actions will take you towards your destiny.

DIN: Do It Now

Procrastination is a disease. It does more damage than good. Most of the people can't think quickly. They can't take quick decision. If decision is taken, they can't take quick action. There can't be any reward if you can't take timely action. 

Sometime delay tactics work but most of the time it is considered as hindrance. It is quite possible that all 

the information or resources are not 

available to take quick action but take 

your first step. Highly successful people, take very quick decision and very fast action. For them, time is the 

mostimportant resource. Time savedis money saved. 

Whether it is completion of any course, building of a house or execution of any project, it should be done as quickly as possible. For that, mantra is “do it now”. 

5 Tips to do it now. 

1. Listen to your conscious. It always advices you to take action.

2. Do not gofor excessive advice before taking action.

3. Take a small step but takeit quickly.

4. Start your day with a To-Do-List.

5. Spend every day, one hour for your health and one hour for enriching the mind. That will keep you action oriented 

through out the day.

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दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

कल पर कुछ मत टालिये , जो करिये बस आज। 

कल-कल करने से सदा , बिगड़े अच्छे काज।। 

DDA: Discuss Don't Argue

Most of the relationships, whether at work or in life, get strained because instead of maintaining discussion we generally end up having an argument, even on small and unimportant issues. 

Discussion clarifies things whereas argument always ends up with 

a fight. Every person is right from his point of view. Actually, a person is 

guided by his thoughts, experiences, knowledge and circumstances. It is not that the other person is always against you; it is mostly because he/she thinks differently. In a discussion, there is a scope to listen to others point of view. But when argument starts, a person 

doesn't want to listen anything 

else. If we listen attentively and 

empathetically, it would lead to 

better ideas and solutions. Be cautious on discussion drifting towards an argument, pull it back and keep it within the limits of discussions only. 

5 Tips to avoid argument. 

1. Plan your discussion.

2. Listen empathetically.

3. When you are about tolose control, stopimmediately.

4.  Learn to avoid argument on small matters.

5.  Give more emphasis on relationship.

चर्चा - परिचर्चा करें, बचें बहस से आप। 

चर्चा से हल हो सदा, बहस रचे संताप।।

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DIP: Discipline in Private

One must be disciplined in private and praised in public but people forget this rule and do the reverse. You might have observed several times, mothers start teaching do's and don'ts to their 

children when they are surrounded by guests and unknown people. Most of the time child will not obey in such situations because probably he feels this is an attack on his ego and 

intelligence. 

Similar type of scene is prevalent in 

corporate world also where boss takes 

pleasure in showing his/her authority on 

subordinates, in front of other colleagues. He/she will start firing and criticizing his/her subordinate in front of others and poor employee may not have any option but to feel belittle. In such type of situations, how can one expect great performance? Work might be done but employees would never be able to give their 100%.

5 Tips to discipline your juniors. 

1. Do not criticize in front of others.

2.  Criticise the behavior/performance not the person.

3. Criticism should be coupled with suggestions for improvement.

4. Try to find out the root cause of a problem if it's repetitive.

5.  Appreciate upon improvements.

घृणा बुराई से करें ,बुरी न कोई जान।

नहीं  भीड़ के सामने ,कभी खींचना  कान।।

DAS: Differences Are Strengths

Generally, we make rigorous efforts to make our children and subordinates as our photo copies by constantly saying them things, which are right from our prospective. In this process, we forget and ignore that every person is different and he/she needs to build his/her own strengths. Having different skills, knowledge, attitude, and thinking should not be viewed as weakness rather it should be explored and utilized as strengths. People are not useless; infact they are not utilized to their fullest potential. Trying to fit a round person in a square peg will be stressful and useless.

Good leaders are those who can find different qualities in a person and give him/her role, which suits his/her personality. In a team if every person is doing a role, which he/she is passionate about, then the team will perform at the level, which no one can match. 

5 Tips to appreciate differences. 

1. Encourage opposite views that will help you to understand problem in a holistic way. 

2. Find out strengths and weaknesses of self, including other members of the team.

3.Capitalise on complementary qualities of each team member.

4. Respect different qualities of people.

5. Do not compare or compete self with others.

दोहा by अविनाश बागड़े

अलग अलग गुण धर्म के, होते सब इंसान।

विभिन्नता से ही बने, ये दुनिया बलवान।।