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Sunday, August 31, 2014

FIP: Fear is Psychological.

FIP: 
Fear is Psychological. 

Fear is not logical, most of the time it is psychological. Here I am not covering fear like threat of terrorist attack etc. Psychological fears are of various types. Fear of failing, fear of loneliness, fear of heights, fear of darkness, fear of accident, death etc. probably the reasons for such fear is impressions and experiences gained knowingly or unknowingly in childhood or at later stage. Fears may be carried forward from previous  births also however scientifically it may be questionable.

Though most of the fears are hindrance in progress, particularly fear of failing is dangerous. However certain amount of fear is good to generate performance. I have worked in various countries and with various nationality people and I have experienced that Indians perform better when they have little fear of their seniors. Best way to deal with fear is FACE IT. When you face the fear head on, fear vanishes and your confidence increases. Once you slay one fear, you will get confidence to conquer all the fears of your life and you can reach the stage of fearlessness. 

5 Tips to deal with Fear:
1. Face it.
2. Most of the people can fight with the fear by having faith in God.
3. If it is serious problem, take the help of psychiatrist. 
4. Conquer the smaller fears that will give you courage to deal with bigger fears.
5. Meditation, yoga and pranayama may help in overcoming fear.

Saturday, August 30, 2014

FIF: Family is Foremost.

FIF: 
Family is Foremost. 
The irony of present day life is, family which shall be the foremost
priority, is mostly neglected over other priorities such as work, wealth,
power and fame. People are getting prosperity but losing peace. We
build house but lose the home, we get car but lose the care, we travel
the world but our own world is ignored. Remember the day you start
losing your health, work, power, wealth, friends and fame, family will
only standby.
In a race of getting all materialistic things for and in name of family we
ignore feelings, respect and care of our own family members. For our
career we abandon even our elders and some time spouse and children
also get neglected. When finally we achieve other things we realize that
family is already left behind with no return point.
5 tips will help in giving importance to family.
1. Be empathetic. Listen the feelings of each and every member of
family and try to fulfill their genuine wishes and needs.
2. Be transparent. Open and clear communication is key to have long
lasting relationship.
3. Celebrate all occasions such as birthdays, anniversary, and festivals
with full enthusiasm.
4. Plan and take vacations at least 2 times in a year.
5. When member is having his own suffering such as illness and old
age, always standby like a rock.

Friday, August 29, 2014

FCA: FLEXIBILITY CREATES ACCEPTABILITY

FCA: 

Flexibility Creates Acceptability. 


We can’t shape any metal be it iron, silver or gold, if we do not make it flexible first. Once the shape is given and flexibility is removed, you can’t give any other shape unless you break it, melt it, remold it. Just imagine if we do not have proper joints and flexibility in our body, we will not be able to live even for a day. The moment we die our body starts becoming stiff and there is no option but to bury it. 


In life also if we do not keep our behavior and attitude flexible, we will not be acceptable in family, friends, work and society. If we keep our thoughts and opinion firm, with no scope to consider others view, people will start maintaining distance from us. It does not mean that we become spineless. We need to have our own conviction but not disrespect the beliefs of other people. Many a times situations arise where you are strongly feeling that you are right and other is not thinking or acting correctly, even in such case also the best strategy is to listen and try to understand why the other person is thinking or acting in the way which is not confirming your thoughts. 


5 Tips to develop flexibility in Attitude:

1. Do not keep attitude of I AM OK, YOU ARE NOT OK. Develop attitude of I AM OK, YOU ARE OK. 

2. Listen. The empathy towards other will make you flexible and acceptable. 
3. Respect the differences in personality.

4. Learn to let go the matters, which are not very important.
5. Relationship is more important than your convictions.

Thursday, August 28, 2014

FAF: FORGET AND FORGIVE

FAF: 

Forget And Forgive. 


If you do not forgive people, they will occupy rent-free space in your mind and heart. I agree that it is easier said than done. Neither it is easy to forgive nor easy to forget. But if we do not make efforts to forget unnecessary and painful events and forgive our near and dear ones, life is going to be full of worry and stress and it will effect self more than anyone else. It is quite possible that other person has already forgotten and forgiven and carrying on in life with peace and happiness where as we are spoiling our health and mental state. 

 

To forget and forgive one need to look and analyze situation impartially. One has to look at the problem and event from other person’s point of view. One has to step in the shoes of other party. Every person behaves according to his upbringing, circumstances and experiences. One needs to understand why the person is behaving the way, which is totally opposite from your expectations. One needs to analyze self behavior also impartially as to whether I have behaved and acted rationally or not? It is quite possible that, we have acted out of emotions and without giving proper thought.


5 Tips to Forget and Forgive:

1. Give more importance to relationship. 

2. Take a long-term perspective. 

3. Develop wisdom to drop your ego. 

4. Give a benefit of lack of wisdom to other party. 

5. Communicate to reduce and remove misunderstandings.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

FAE: FAILURES ARE EXPERIENCES

FAE: 

Failures Are Experiences. 


In my opinion we must discourage everyone to use the word FAILURE.

The word failure has been used so negatively in day-to-day life that it

can’t do any thing better than to demean and demotivated someone.

Failure is basically not getting success in that attempt, which can be

better defined as experience. Thomas Edison did not get success 999

times before developing bulb, but he learned 999 ways how not a bulb

can be made.

In work life, failing is actually accumulating experiences. The best

example of learning from failure is Abraham Lincoln. When we will start

calling failures as experiences, we will not get demotivated and never

feel down. We will start again with new experience and new

zeal. Instead of asking how and why you failed, ask how your

experience was and what your next plans are. Failures are best lessons

to learn and strong foundation stones on which a palace of success can

be built.

5 Tips to handle failure effectively:

1. Smile on the face of failure.

2. Do not allow your enthusiasm to die.

3. Analyse reasons of failure.

4. Start again with new strategy.

5. Do not blame others for your failures.

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

EWH: Education Widens Horizon.

EWH: 
Education Widens Horizon. 

Here is real story of a boy who never cleared his exams till standard 8th without grace marks, failed twice; in standard 7th and 9th. Completed graduation in Hindi medium. Completed CA because his father had strong desire that his son should be a Chartered Accountant. This is ME, today whatever little success I have, the entire credit goes to my father and my education. 

Education never stops with your formal education. I wish I could read till my last breath. By religion I am Jain and we believe in next birth. I wish in next birth I want to devote entire life studying Sanskrit so that I can read Veda, Upanishad, Geeta and our Scriptures. So much of wisdom gained by our Rishis is hidden there. I wish I could get part of it. 

Education widens horizon, one can have a higher vision, clarity of thoughts, wisdom of talk and purity of action. That can lead life of peace and happiness.

5 Tips for continuous learning:
1. Give as much education as possible to your children.
2. Keep learning even after completion of formal education by reading books, magazines etc. Keep attending seminar, exhibitions etc.
3. Travel a lot, this help in widening horizon.
4. Be observant of each and every thing.
5. Develop a habit of writing.

5 Tips to improve competence of staff

5 Tips How to improve competence of staff:

Incompetency of the staff is one of the major problem of developing and under developed countries. The main reason for the same is poor education, lack of exposure and insufficient experience. There is no lack of sincerity or hard work but lack of innovative and smart work. Entrepreneurs neither have patience to train them nor ready to invest in the growth of employees. This ultimately result in to poor performance  of individual as well as enterprise. 

The difference in average organisation and world class organisation is quality of its employees. Once a great leader said that you take my all assets but leave my key employees and in no time I will again create a world class organisation. 

5 Tips to improve competence of staff: 
1. Whenever you hire a new person, first create a job profile and role clarity and search person accordingly rather recruiting first and creating a position according to him. Neither recruit a over qualified person nor under qualified. Focus on quality of person while recruitment rather than quantity. Quality people are always expensive. 
2. In any organisation only 5% tasks require innovativeness. 95% tasks are of routine nature. Create detailed processes and efficient systems for performing routine tasks so that dependence on human intervention reduces drastically. Use information technology as much as possible. 
3. Invest continuously on training. Training is not an expense. Training shall be continuous process. 
4. For existing employees try to match person's competencies with job requirement. If require shuffle the jobs among staff. 
5. Tell people clearly what is expected of them. Set their goals in writing. Review the results periodically. Go in depth of non achievements of goals. Reset the goals for next period.  

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

CYP: Create Your Path

CYP: 
Create Your Path. 
 
The best way to have good-luck, is to create your own destiny. Most of you will question that how one can create its own destiny. You may reject the idea as being rubbish. Destiny is nothing but day-to-day things one does in a single day, reaction of those actions emerges as a destiny in future. You plant a mango tree today and take care by giving water and fertilizer; in future you are bound to get mangoes. 
 
Our problem is we can’t take decision even for small matters such as what to cook tonight or what to wear in the party. We give command of our life in the hands of others. Allowing some one to rule your life as love is different but giving command for important matters, will lead you to become what others want to make you, not what you want to become. If you wish to fulfill your dreams, create your own path. 
 
5 Tips to Create Your Destiny:
1. Take control of your actions in your hand.
2. Set the vision, decide the strategy and act accordingly.
3. Differentiate between good karma and bad karma. Focus on good karma only.
4. Be clear about your role and do your duty.
5. Only action is in your hand, not the consequences. Keep patience. Result of good karma will certainly be good.

26 A to Z secrets of Success:

26 A to Z secrets of Success: 

The definition of success is differ from individual to individual. Before giving you 26 secrets of success, I would like to define success according to my point of view. 

Success is when you achieve your goal, target, aim or purpose. 
Success is when you become most beautiful flower of your plant or most attractive fruit of your tree. 
Success is when lot of people look at you with admiration and seek your guidance. 
Success is when you are more useful for others than yourself. 
Success is when you are touching sky but your feet are firm on the ground. 
Success is when you are continuously walking towards your goal in-spite of obstacles or failures. 
Success is when you have reached to your destination but already have set your eyes on next goal. 
Success is when fruit of your achievement is useful for others. 

Now I would like to reveal 26 secrets of success. These are arranged in A to Z sequence and not in a sequence of importance. These secrets are nectar of my last 26 years of reading around 500+ books and 1000s of articles. One person can not have all the following qualities however you will find most of these qualities in a successful person. It may so happen that you are not finding your favourite word in 26 headings but that is certainly represented directly or indirectly under one of the secrets. Such as PERSEVERANCE, it is synonym with determination. Still if you feel that I had left out important quality, please do write me. 

Action Oriented: 
Taking a birth in the wealthy or intellectual family is not success. It is your destiny and result of your past karma. Success depends on your present actions which will convert into results and create your destiny. Actions depends on decisions you take now and decisions depends on quality of your thinking and thinking depends on your day to day observations, learning and interactions with people. 

Successful people are action oriented. It may so happen that their all actions do not result into desired outcome but they never stop. They may change their path but they will keep walking, keep doing, keep going ahead with a clear vision in mind. 

Blessed with Luck: 
Few of reader may not believe in luck but directly or indirectly we acknowledge importance of the same. Few people are born lucky and few are mostly fortunate to get their way wherever they go or whatever they do. 

If presently luck is not favouring us it does not mean in future also it will not favour us. Whatever the positive actions we are taking today, result of those will come before us on future date as luck. 

Communication Skills:
It is not necessary that if you lack good communication skills, you can not be successful. I have worked with few fine brains in industry but they were not having great oratory or communication skills. 

Still having a good communication skills helps in climbing steps of success. They work like a icing on the cake. Many people acquire good communication skills after achieving a certain level of success. 

Dedication and Determination:
The first step is to have clear dreams of what you wish or desire to achieve. Once the dreams are clear, decide action plan to achieve those dreams. When goal and strategy both are in place one need perseverance or dedication to walk on the path. Dedication is the one of the most desired single quality require to achieve any thing. If any body asks me what is the single most attribute require for success, I will select dedication or perseverance. 

Dedication alone can not drive to success however coupled with determination and discipline, journey will become faster toward destiny. 

Education & Learning: 
Probably few decades back formal education was not must for success. In present world also there are examples of great success without completing formal education. However chances of success are better when one is equipped with better education. 

Learning shall be life long endeavour. Knowledge is power. One need to be updated in his field. Technological and other advancements are continuous process so learning shall also be continuous process. Knowledgeable person will always have an edge to think clearly in complex situation, find solution of problems, decide the strategy and set the vision. 

Focused Efforts:  
You might have come across extraordinarily intelligent people but not getting success in life. If you deeply analyse, you will find that prime reason is lack of systematic focused efforts. They lack concentration. They do not follow monomaniacally a single focused goal. They will put their resources in various projects. 

There are people who are capable of doing multitask and can handle several projects simultaneously however those are exceptions. If you dig 10ft at 10 places, you may not get water but if you dig 100 ft at one place chances are bright that you get water.  

Goals Clarity: 
When we step out of a house, our destination is in our mind. But most of us are living entire life without any purpose. It might not be possible to decide the ultimate goal however, it’s also not difficult to decide short term and medium term goals. Goals may be materialistic, emotional, intellectual or spiritual but life without goal is like balloon without air.  Furthermore, people at work without goal might achieve something but their achievement will always be lower than their potential. 
 
Professionals say that your goals must be SMART (Specific; Measurable; Attainable; Relevant; Time Bound). If goals are not SMART then they are not goals, they are basically wishes. Written goals have always better chances of getting fulfilled so always keep on writing and modifying goals periodically. When the END is defined, chances are very high that you will reach the END otherwise wherever you reach consider that is END. 

Honesty Generates Trust:
Many may argue that in present days most of the successful people are not honest. But I am sure that dishonest person can not have happiness and peace of mind. Having a success, mostly financial one, without peace of mind is not meaningful. 

Honesty in behaviour is key to create trust. If our thoughts, words and actions are not aligned, people will not trust us. Sustainable success is impossible without trustworthiness.  

Invest Your Resources:
It is not possible to do YAGYA without giving AAHUTI. whatever you have, your knowledge, time, energy and money, you will have to invest to get some thing better out of it. A farmer will have to plough the field, sow the seed, water it etc. to get the crop. 

If there is no input than there is no process than how can there be output? The main reason of failure is our input are less than required to get desired output. 

Joyful: 
It is not necessary that all successful people are joyful but I will consider all joyful people as successful. Success can not be measured with wealth, fame or power alone. If wealth, fame or power is not coupled with joy than that success has got no meaning. 

Some may argue that once I get  success, I will become happy but those people will never get happiness. Rather chances are great that happy people will get success sooner. 

Kwality: 
Whatever you think, whatever you talk, whatever you do, adds the flavor of quality and you will be delivering the extra ordinary performance. The existence of your business or profession depends on quality of product and services you are giving to your customer and client. Quality depends upon quality of input material, process and quality check for final output. Success is impossible if you are not quality conscious. 

Leadership: 
It is impossible to think of success in absence of leadership quality. Leader is the person who can get extraordinary result from ordinary people. A leader can inspire and motivate team to get peak performance. Many people get confused managerial skills with leadership traits. One can manage things but people to be lead. Mostly we do reverse. We start managing people and leading the things. 

Move on: 
In my opinion we must discourage every one to use word FAILURES. The word failure has been used so negatively in day-to-day life that it can’t do any thing better than to demean and demotivated someone. The failure is basically not getting success in that attempt, which can be better defined as experience. Thomas Edison did not get success 999 times before developing bulb, but he learned 999 ways how not a bulb can be made. 
 
In work life, failing is actually accumulating experiences. The best example of learning from failure is Abraham Lincoln. When we will start calling failures as experiences, we will not get demotivated and never feel down. We will start again with new experience and new zeal. Instead of asking how and why you failed, ask how was your experience and what are your next plans. Failures are best lessons to learn and strong foundation stones on which a palace of success can be built. 

Net Working:
A person with average talent but strong net work has better chance of getting new job, closing the deal and winning the project. People give more importance to attitude than ability. Over a period families are shrinking but friend circles are growing. Social networking sites are booming. Professionals are eager to join groups, association, clubs etc. major deals are getting closed either at the golf course or get togethers. 

Organise Yourself: 
Most of the successful people manage their time very efficiently. They strongly believe in delegating responsibilities down the line. They focus on creating efficient systems and processes. Mostly you will find their table and schedule less cluttered. Successful people are efficient as well as effective. 

Positive Thinking & Attitude:
Positive thinking is the seed of positive attitude. Thousands of books are written on positive attitude but very few are focused on positive thinking. I wonder how one can have positive attitude without positive thinking. Positive thinking require lots of conscious efforts and continuous watch and refinement of thoughts. 

Positive attitude helps in getting success as well as overcoming failures with greater speed. You will not find a single example of highly successful person with negative attitude. 

Quick Decision Maker: 
Success oriented people are very quick on their feet. They have amazing ability to see the end even before starting a first step. Since they can visualise the final destination and path instantaneously, they are very quick in making decisions. They have great intuition and do not need all the facts to take decision. I have seen many successful entrepreneurs who do not delegate  effectively but they are quick in taking decisions. Their quick decision making trait compensate their weakness of non-delegation. 

Risk Taking Ability:
Safe players can never be successful. They can walk but they can not run. Nothing greater have ever achieved without taking risk. It does not mean that they jump blindly in the well but they step out often with calculated risk. They will risk their all the resources once they are convinced about their ideas. According to them ship may be safe in harbour but ships are made to sail. Successful people do not enjoy routine life where there is no risk. They strongly believe in high risk high gain rule. 

Smart working: 
Doing things rightly is good but doing right things is more important. Working smartly requires creativity and innovativeness. It reduces fatigue and eliminate the wastage. Smart people gets more output in given resources. If a person can do hard work along with smart work than it is a feather in the cap. 

Team Building: The height of ego, I consider, when a person says I am self made and independent person. We are product of team work of 2 persons who are our parents. To achieve anything worth while we need hard-work and support of many people. 

The successful people know this secret very well and build a team of employees, associates or partners who are mentally, emotionally and physically dedicated to his goals and purpose. 

Understanding & Empathy:
EQ i.e. Emotional Quotient used for knowing level of emotional intelligence of a person. Successful people are sensitive enough to feel, understand and empathise emotional turmoils of self as well as others with whom they are dealing with. This quality help them in connecting other people and getting most out of them. One can not build palace of his success without using bricks of efforts of other people. 

Vision and Direction:
The first step to be successful is having clear vision. Success is basically journey from present status to future destination. There is a difference between goal and vision. Vision is long term outlook whereas goal is short term target. Vision is final destination where as goal is intermediate milestones. 

Spend more time in clarifying your vision and direction otherwise your ladder will be against wrong wall and your all efforts will be wasted. If you feel lack of ability in visualising your final destination, take the help of experts. Dedication, determination, decisions and actions are all useless if your vision is blurred. 

Wealth Creation:
If we keep apart success in spiritual world, wealth and earnings are major criteria and barometer of success. Mostly it so happen that when our earnings are good, we ignore creation of wealth. We spend the money for wasteful things which has got depreciating value. One can not be so fortunate that in life never meets failure. Failures and bad times are inevitable. At such stage accumulated wealth can bail you out and again give you courage to take risk and get success. People are wise who create wealth for having sustainable success. 

Xceed the Expectations: 
When you work to get success, there are several stakeholders. Such as shareholders, customers, lenders, employees, society, government etc. Each stack holder has certain expectations. Successful people make it as a habit to exceed the expectation of all stack holders. That increase confidence and trust of all involved and efforts of involved create a momentum where it is impossible to fail. 

Yes I Can: 
Though courage is covered under risk taking but I would stress on having attitude of 'Yes I Can' and 'Yes I Will'. Attitude matter more than skills. People have courage to take first step without much knowledge of future path, get success easily than people have lot of knowledge but do not have attitude of I CAN or I WILL. 

Zealous:
Last but not least, passion to excel is major trait of successful people. Passion is their source of energy and enthusiasm. For their passion they can give long hours without feeling stress in body or mind. Their mind will be 24 hours occupied with their passion only. Flip side is that, they ignore all other aspect of life. But nothing great ever achieved without passion and passion for excellence.