Corruption corrupt peace

CCP: Corruption Corrupts Peace. 

India ranks 94th on the global corruption perception index. Practically speaking, every Indian is corrupt if you consider giving bribe as a part of corruption. Corruption ranges from as simple as getting a seat unethically in train to illegally holding a dead body by 

police for cremation. Most of the employees either in government or 

in private sector take bribe for performing their job. Similarly, most 

of the entrepreneurs give bribe for getting things done in their favour. 

Tax evasion is also a type of corruption as most of the taxpayers in some or the other way try to evade tax resulting in distorted development of our country.

At an individual level, corruption can give progress over a short period of time. However, it won't be able to provide peace even for a brief period. In India,it's the major cause of high stress level, diabetes, hypertension and blood pressure. The sad part of corruption is that nowadays, it is so prevalent, that our conscious is getting immune to 

its spread. It has become a way of life but somewhere deep inside our subconscious level it is corrupting our day-to-day peace. 

5 Tips to reduce/ stop corruption. 

1.  Elect honest leader as a country head.

2. Follow rules to avoid giving bribe. 

3. Stressing on the importance of moral education at primary level.

4. Bringing transparency in governance by e-governance.

5. Simplifying tax structure.

नोच रहा मन का अमन,

बढ़ता भ्रष्टाचार ।

कारण बढ़े तनाव के,

करिये ज़रा विचार।।

RPA: Responsibility Precedes Authority

Most of us are craving to get authority and power as much as possible and as early as possible however we forget that responsibility precedes authority. We want to enjoy the fruits of power but hesitate to take the pain of responsibility. The word responsibility is combination of response plus ability. Ability to respond with decisions and actions. When the people in the position of authority fail to respond to a situation and develop a habit of procrastination, organisation starts sliding down and environment of chaos can be seen around that person. If a person of authority is quick in taking decisions and actions, one can find an efficient and effective organisation around him. 

On the other side if a person is given with responsibility but not entrusted with enough authority, he will not be able deliver the results. Authority and responsibility shall go hand in hand and shall commensurate with each other. If you want authority, start taking responsibility and you will see that eventually authority is following you. 

5 Tips to handle authority and responsibility:

1. First take responsibility, authority will follow. 

2. Many times a formal authority may be entrusted, start using authority in the interest of organisation.  

3. Do not procrastinate decisions and actions, you may lose the authority soon. 

4. If the authority is clearly defined, do not exceed without taking all concern in confidence. 

5. If you are in a position to pass on responsibility, delegate sufficient authority otherwise chances are you will not get desire results. 

पहले ख़ुद को सिद्ध कर,

बन कर ज़िम्मेदार।

बिन माँगे तुझको मिले,

मनचाहे अधिकार।।

Control your frustration

CYF: Control Your Frustration. 

Though this tip is useful for all but I wrote keeping in mind NRIs returning back to India for a permanent settlement. You will see people breaking traffic rules, throwing waste from car windows, spitting on road, urinating on roadside, not reaching on appointed time. There are hundreds of similar examples and you will feel frustrated by looking at such things. Frustration is going to spoil your mood and your day. Accept the reality that your frustration is not going to change the behavior of people surrounding you. If you think, you can change them; then your entire life will be short even to inculcate one good habit in all citizens. 

The best strategy is not to change the good habits you have developed. Try to train your near and dear ones about adopting good habits. Never lose control on your mood and feel frustrated. Slowly expand your circle of influence. Hundreds of time you will 

feel that your efforts are useless and you may fall in trap of losing even your own good habits. Control your frustration by adopting below mentioned tips. 

5 Tips to Control Frustration. 

1. Make a list of your frustrations.

2. Change or accept the situation.

3. Focus on what is in your control.

4. Communicate directly with person whose behavior frustrates you.

5. Replace your frustration with positive thinking.

मनमाफिक जो ना दिखे,

होना नहीं निराश।

सदगुण ख़ुद के माँजना,

होये बिना हताश।।

दोहा अविनाश बागड़े

Complacency Slides Down

CSD: Complacency Slides Down. 

I am the best. I know all. No one can beat me. I do not need anybody's help. When such types of thoughts exist in mind, it is a sign of complacency. Such people think that their glass is full of milk and there is no space for anyone else. They forget that even full glass of milk has a scope for one teaspoon of sugar, which can make milk sweeter. Basically, complacency kills creativity and new ideas stop emerging. 

Once you reach the top, it takes more efforts to remain there. For that, one needs to be humble. One should always be ready to make changes, learn new things, enhance 

knowledge and accept suggestions. Instead of that, if complacency sets in, one can be sure of sliding down.

To avoid trap of complacency, develop more flexibility, humbleness, politeness and openness. Keep on learning more skills, enhancing knowledge, and adding values in whatever role you are playing. 

 

5 Tips to avoid Complacency. 

1.  Be ready to be in a learning mode.

2.  Do not believe your press agents.

3.  Keep inviting feedback and criticism.

4.  Keep reviewing strategies.

5.  Be polite and humble, as you rise high.

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सारा कुछ मैं  जानता ,

जिनका ये विश्वास !

फिसल गए वो साख से ,

बन कर खुद के दास।।

अविनाश बागड़े। 

CBT: Character Builds Trustworthiness:

CBT: Character Builds Trustworthiness: 

If someone says 'I Trust You' then it's a bigger compliment than 'I Love You'. Gaining trust of anyone is harder than gaining love. When you trust someone you surrender yourself. You will be confident that he/she will always be available for you. Also, you will be sure that he/she will not take you for granted. 

Now, question is why we trust someone or why someone will trust us. The first and foremost quality needed to develop trust is by bringing honesty in our behavior. Our thoughts, words and actions must be aligned for someone to trust us. People are very smart in finding out contradictions in our thoughts and actions. It takes years to buildit but it takes few seconds for trust to shatter. 

Trust is considered as a base for building strong relationship. Whether it is a case of a family or work, trust is needed to have strong bonding. Apart from honesty, other character traits also play vital role in developing trust such as integrity, fairness, thoughtfulness, humbleness, kindness and sincerity. Even the trust worthy person can have some personality flaws but if people trust him/her, they would overlook those flaws. 

5 Tips to develop Trust. 

1. Develop honesty in your behavior.

2. Overcome character flaws.

3.  Trust people to gain trustin return.

4.  Be emotionally intelligent.

5. Align your thoughts, words and 

actions.

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कर्मों, शब्द, विचार के

सदगुण अपने पास

अच्छा सदा चरित्र ही

गढ़ता है विश्वास

Doha by Avinash Bagde

CWS: Compete With Self

CWS : Compete With Self. 

Right from childhood we start learning how to compete with others. Parents start comparing siblings. In school, we compete with fellow students. Likewise, in office, we compete with other colleagues. It is just like a war, where one is always fighting to be on the top. In such conditions how can one learn to love ? It does not mean that we should not work for betterment of our performance. 

One should compete only with self and always try to improve. These things give more satisfaction and less stress. Comparison and competition are negative emotions and create war rooms. 

While comparing, if you become number one, you will lose the thrill of doing further progress or if your opponent is so strong, you may lose any enthusiasm to grow. In both situations, one can lead to stagnancy but when you are competing with self, you are always progressing and growing. 

5 Tips to compete with self. 

1.  Set your own targets.

2.  Do not envy others progress.

3. Never compare your children and juniors with others unless it's absolutely necessary.

4. Celebrate your own small successes to get motivated for future goals.

5.  Be genuine in appreciating others.

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नहीं सफलता से किसी

जलना तुम श्रीमान

ख़ुद से करे मुक़ाबला 

अपनी क्षमता जान

Doha by Avinash Bagde

CYL: Challenge Your Limits

CYL: Challenge Your Limits. 

In Indian mythology, Lord Hanuman never knew that he has an ability to fly till Lord Rama made him realize. Like that, we all have immense hidden abilities and potential but most of the time we set our own psychological limits and do not challenge ourselves. 

We all know the vast difference between our knowledge as a child versus modern age children. Academic curriculum variation in today's time versus 50 years back is immense. Children have amazing ability to grasp; it is we who put limitations, fearing they may be over burdened. Research has proved that a normal person use only 2-3% of his brain while genius uses 7-10%. Imagine the extent of potential being wasted. People are same as far as physical appearance is concerned like every one has 2 eyes, 2 hands etc. but they are different in utilizing their potential. 

5 Tips to challenge your limits. 

1. Everyday devote around 15-30 minutes on quality thinking.

2. Accept the challenges with courage.

3. Always try to set stretched goals.

4. Determination and dedication is the key to success.

5. Accept the failures as lessons and bounce back with more zeal.

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अपनी क्षमता का नहीं 

हमको कुछ आभास

हद अपनी है तोड़ना

ख़ुद पे रख विश्वास

Doha by Avinash Bagde