GoG: Grow or Go.

GoG:  

Grow or Go. 

Physical growth is inevitable but all other growth requires conscious efforts. I would like to divide growth in 2 parts. One is visible and outward growth and another is non-visible and inside growth. Most of us are after visible growth such as growth in money, power, fame and status. Money leads all of them. When 2 unknown people meet, they may not ask each other’s name but they would like to know about each other’s profession. Money has become the barometer of growth. There is nothing wrong in that as long as you control money rather than letting money control you. One must continuously make legitimate and genuine effort to grow money, which works as fuel for all other activities and passions. 

Another growth is not so visible such as strong relationships; enhancement of knowledge, depth of spirituality and wisdom etc. One must make continuous effort to grow these. This kind of growth lasts longer, even beyond your death. If you have stopped making effort for growing, you just exist not really living. 

5 Tips for focus on growth:

1. Growth is nature’s principle. It is not choice but is compulsion.

2. Select the area of growth with conscious choice because it will have long-term impact in your life.

3. Set the vision; choose the strategy and act upon that.

4. Keep patience, some time it may take longer to get reward of your efforts.

5. Failures are lessons on the path of growth.

GiG: Guest is God.

GiG: 

Guest is God. 

I think India is the only country which has culture and tradition to treat guest like God. In Sanskrit ATITHI DEVO BHAVAH means guest is like God. Tourism department of India has adopted this as a tag line and is promoting tourism around this theme. However over a period of time, due to hectic life of cities and augmentation of materialism, there is a considerable decline in

honoring guest. Now days, in most of the houses, guest is treated as burden. At the same time when we go at someone's place as guest, we do not follow simple etiquettes of being guest. Over a period of time

focus has been shifted from what I can do for others to what others can do for me. We have become opportunist hence the people who are useful to us, we treat them well and people who are not useful, seems burden when they come to our home. In present time it may not be

possible to treat all guests as God but treat them as human being and do not leave your humanity.

5 Tips for treating the Guest:

1. Use your wisdom in differentiating between genuine and unauthentic

guests.

2. Extend your warm hospitality to genuine guests.

3. In case your work schedule is clashing, make sure they get proper

comfort and feeling of home at your place.

4. In case a guest is taking undue advantage of your hospitality, be firm and polite.

5. Never discuss your personal problems in front of your guest unless

and until they are close family members or friends.

FWF: Flow With Flow.

FWF: 

Flow With Flow. 

This tip is more useful when you want to take the path to spirituality. When the path of GYANA and BHAKTI start dominating over KARMA. Zen

philosophy teaches that live your life like river. Flow with the flow. Reduce resistance. When you flow with flow, there are very less frictions and life move towards peace and ultimate bliss.

Flip side of this tip is one can become dead log, lack enthusiasm; lack

motivation. This can make a man totally dull and dejected. Unless and

until desires and wishes are dying down, flow with flow is not possible rather it may give more pain than pleasure. However this tip can be

used partially in some role and for some time, particularly when it is

better to accept the circumstances and people rather than fight with

them. In present era when technology is changing with fast pace and

generation gap is reducing, if we do not flow with flow and keep complaining, life will become more painful. It is better to accept changes and flow with flow.

5 Tips to Flow with Flow:

1. Particularly in relationship Expect nothing; accept everything.

2. Do not complain. Offer solutions. 

3. People are not difficult; they are different. Try to understand them.

4. Develop equanimity with pain and pleasure.

5. Synchronize your thoughts, words and actions.

LFA: LEARN FROM ALL

LFA: 

Learn From All. 

Every thing, every plant, every animal, every person and every situation

is a teacher if you are ready to be a student. I am compiling these tips

more for my self-learning than passing on to the readers. I wish I

should be student till my last breath. Though technology and Google

has given us knowledge on our fingertips, we can still learn a lot from our surroundings. “I know all” is the biggest illusion and highest ego.

The moment you think, you are a master, you lose your mastery. For continuous learning one needs to drop his ego completely. One needs to be consciously observant. One needs to keep all senses alert. Keep

open your eyes and ears. Never treat anyone inferior and consider yourself superior. When you will treat yourself as a student, you will treat everyone with respect as a teacher.

Take a simple example of a pencil; how many lessons we can learn from it. Unless and until it goes through the pain of sharpening, it is of

no use. What it has inside matter more than what it has outside. It is of no use unless it takes the help of finger. Lastly it has limited life.

5 Tips to Learn from All:

1. Nobody knows every thing but every body knows something.

2. Speak less; listen more.

3. Observe minutely.

4. Don’t blame. Learn from your own mistakes and failures.

5. While learning, keep your ego aside.

FYC: Fulfill Your Commitment.

FYC: 

Fulfill Your Commitment. 

Think thousand times before making any commitment but once

committed, stay committed. Be aware of people who make quick

promises. Chances are that they will never fulfill and will find convincing excuses for it. Before making any commitment, ponder

upon all consequences. Check your capability, availability of time, and

sufficiency of resources, then only commit. Many times, in emotions we

commit some thing for life long, and after some time we start feeling stressed in meeting those commitments.

The people who do not complete task or are very casual about their

commitments, can never command respect from their family, friends,

co-workers and society. There may be a situation, when due to change

in external circumstances, it is impossible to fulfill your commitment or complete the task, sit with other party, explain reasons, convince them and assure them. That will save your reputation to be tarnished.

5 Tips to handle commitments:

1. Commit when absolutely necessary. However keep performing.

2. Commit less, deliver more.

3. Once committed, stay committed.

4. Keep transparency if it is impossible to meet commitment.

5. Do not falter on commitment just because of financial, time, energy

or resources loss.

FTG: FOCUS TO GROW

FTG:  

Focus to Grow. 

A farmer was sitting sad and clueless for lack of water for farming. An

expert came and advised him dig 100 ft. and his water problem will be

solved. After a year the expert came back and saw farmer still sitting

sad. He asked reason for his grief. He said I dig 110 ft. but no water. He

asked show me where you dig. He showed him 11 holes of 10 ft. each.

If you wish to grow, put your all energy, time and resources at one

project or task in focused manner. Result is bound to be there. If you

are not focused, your all efforts will go in vein like that farmer.

Whether you are student and pursuing some course or in relationship

or working on a project or in a department, put all your efforts and

focus in one direction. Focus and pursue your single biggest

opportunity. It does not mean that one shall not diversify. But strategy

of diversification shall be adopted once your existing business is

already established and professionally running without much of your

interference and you have extra funds to risk without affecting your

existing business.

5 Tips to Focus:

1. Focus on one major goal at one time.

2. Take deep breath and concentrate.

3. Do not allow interruptions while you are focusing on one task.

4. If you can afford, keep mobile on silence and attend call with

intervals.

5. Plan your day by making To-Do-List.

FRS: Fight Reduces Strength.

FRS: 

Fight Reduces Strength. 

Fight should be the last option and it should be the decision taken with

full consciousness. As far as possible it should not be opted at all.

However at times it is just not possible to reconcile, in that situation

also it is better to be on non-talking terms than to fight.

Fight reduces the strength of both the sides. It destroys mental,

emotional and physical strengths. It destroys the peace and entire

energy, time and money that has to be deployed which otherwise can

be utilized for constructive purpose.

Verbal, open and transparent communication is the best way to defuse

the fight and rather reconcile to achieve win-win situation. It is most of

the time not easy because vested interest play as negative force but still

trying to achieve win-win situation is always better.

5 Tips to avoid fight:

1. Stop communication as soon as you feel that fight is going to erupt.

2. Resume communication on next possible occasion.

3. Use mediator in case not possible to reconcile at own.

4. Some times, let it cool off. Time is biggest healer.

5. Forget and Forgive.